Books every student should read
I was just finishing up my second year at University when the pandemic started. With all the extra time, I decided to do something that I feel like most of us have probably said during our life. I started reading more. Suddenly, I became a bit of a bookworm and really found myself enjoy tons of book focus around growing as an individual, from many different aspects. Whether it be relationships, work ethic, mindset, I was all for books that were about self-development.
Over the last year, I have read quite a few books, and there are four that stood out to me which I applied to the different parts of my life as a student.
The Subtle Art of How Not to Give a Fuck— Mark Manson
Personally, I was always someone who cared a lot about what other people thought of me. Not that it changed me, but it heavily affected my mood. I was upset when others might have thought that I was lazy, lame, or annoying in someway. I didn’t really know what I was doing wrong, so I just continued with my life, behaved the same way I always did, but I was much more self-conscious and in my head about the way that I acted. This led to constant overthinking when I got home and it would only get worse from there.
This book is probably one of my favourite books ever. It brilliantly explains that everyone is going through their own things, they’ve got their own shit to worry about, and you’ve got your own shit going on in your life. It’s exhausting worrying about anything and everything, which is why it is so important to stop giving a fuck about what people may think, letting go of the little things so that you are able to prioritize and focus on what matters to you. To add, Mark Manson and this book, while it teaches a lot, it does it while giving you a laugh.
Atomic Habits — James Clear
Like many other students, I struggle with procrastination. I always find myself scrolling on Instagram far longer than I should, delaying school work to the point where I am cramming and stressing. I needed to find a solution to break my procrastination habit and build healthy habits in my life.
Atomic Habits says that almost our life is essentially composed of habits. We wake up, do the same things everyday, whether they are good or bad. Ideally, we would like to have a lot more good habits rahter than bad ones, and James Clear breaks habits down and explains that there are three principles to build a habit and three principles to break a habit. To add, it also teaches you how not to be so hard on yourself and by doing this, you’ll be happier and work harder towards building/breaking your habits.
I’ve used these principles to help break my procrastination and focus that time on being more productive in some way or another. Whether it be working on my personal projects, excercising, or school work, I have been able to spend more time on the things that matter. This isn’t to say that I am some productivity guru and I never procrastinate, but its significantly less than what it was a year ago and I like to think that it is getting better and better. Slowly, but surely.
The Mastery of Love — Don Miguel Ruiz
I think one of the biggest parts about University/Collage is relationships. Meeting new people, going on dates and maybe even falling in love. For many, this is the first real relationship that people enter and, like all relationships, there are bound to be some arguments, both with your significant other and arguments that you have with yourself. “Is this the right person for me? Yes of course he/she is! But, I am so young, I should explore my youth right? But I enjoy my time with them and want to me with them, plus he/she did this, this, and that” etc. Its exhausting, but everyone loves being loved.
The Mastery of Love is a book that explains how relationships should be in order for both people to be happy as individuals, and by being happy as individuals, they can be even happier together. Its a book that guides you on how to remove the toxicity and negativity that exists in many relationships so that you can be happier with who you are and who you are with your partner. Most importantly, I believe the message that it delivers is that if you love yourself, then you can enter and be who you are in your relationship that will full of love and understanding. This isn’t to say that you won’t ever argue again, but overall, you’ll be happier.
The Happiness Advantage — Shawn Achor
We all strive to be more productive human beings. Always want to work hard, achieve high marks or goals, become more successful and then we will be happy. However, maybe this is the wrong approach.
The Happiness Advantage is essentially about how you can use the things in your life that currently make you happy towards being more productive human beings! There are so many things that can be done in our daily lives which is used as fuel towards being more productive. And in fact, neglecting the things that bring us happiness is counter-productive and we end up procrastinating, and upset that we are not being more productive.
These four books all help towards creating a more productive, healthier life. They’ve helped me greatly and while I am not some perfect student or anything, I consider myself a lot more productive and healthier, both mentally and physically, due to these books!