How “The Subtle Art of How Not to Give a Fuck” Changed my Life.

Aamer Seth
5 min readApr 30, 2020
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I was someone who gave too many fucks about too many things. Everything began to stress me out. What was annoying was the smaller things in life started to stress me out. “Shit, I forgot to put my plate in the dishwasher.” or “I didn’t reply to that comment someone left on my last post on Instagram”. Part of what makes me stressed is the environment and the people. And the stupid part was that everything “negative” (I was just being a bitch about the small things in full honestly) that was happening in my life, I thought I was the only one who was going through it.

Mark Manson created a novel that is funny, brutally honest and most importantly, helped me realize the who, what, when, where and how I should give a fuck.

Everybody has problems. This was something comforting that I learned and it put some perspective on my problems. It made me realize that I am not alone. the rich, the poor, the ones who have families, the ones who are alone, everyone has problems. There is no such thing as a perfect person who has life figured out, no matter how it may look and what they choose to share.

Sometimes, when I look at a friend, I think “Why do I have so much shit going on in my life and this person is just chilling and has everything figured out? How are they succeeding in their academics, work, romantic life and family life? What are they doing that I am not?”. Answer: they are just not sharing their problems with me. Just like I am not sharing my problems with them.

Coming to terms with the fact that no matter who you are, where you end up in life, no matter what you do, you will have problems in your life. It helps you stop asking the question “why me?” and turns it into “how do I deal with this?”.

Give a fuck. Just not about everything. I like to consider myself a caring person. And admittedly, this is something that I am still working on. It is unusual for me not to care. While the title of this book tells you not to give a fuck, it actually teaches you that you need to prioritize your fucks. If I cared about anything and everything, then I am not going to ever be happy because I can’t do everything. It's an unfortunate, simple fact of life. So, what do I give a fuck about nowadays? What actually makes me happy.

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Aamer Seth

A young University student very curious about many things and here to share his thinking. Interested in Photography, Technology and sharing stories.