The Spontaneity of Love
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Have you ever tried to plan when you fall in love? Or given yourself a timeline on when you are going to meet someone and then that is going to be it, that is going to be the person that you are going to marry. Even though you have no idea who they are, you are just waiting for that certain time period because you believe that they are going to show up.
If you really think about it, there is no such thing as a good time. Think about breaking bad news to someone. If the other person is having a great time in life, everything is going well, then you don’t want to tell them the bad news since you don’t want to be the person who kills the good life streak. But if the other person is already going through a bad time, then giving them more bad news, you just feel bad for piling on.
So, no matter what, time sucks. We never seem to have enough of it, we are always asking for more of it, and it causes more inconveniences than anything else in our lives. And more importantly, we have zero control over the matter.
And time seems like such a complicated concept when it comes to relationships and falling in love.
I feel like there is some sort of common misconception and the desire that we are able to control our feelings, especially feelings of love. Love is something that develops naturally. It can be over a long period of time, or it can be over an hour. It does not care for time, it just shows up in your life.
Love is honestly one of the best feelings in the world. To love someone so much where it feels like you can’t exist without them and you want to protect the person at all costs. And to be loved is to know that you are safe in this world, despite what anyone else might do, or say, you know that everything is going to be alright.
Love is having support no matter what, during the good times and bad times, knowing that you can rely on the person. When you are in love with someone, you are finally able to be 100% yourself and don’t have to hide any aspect of your life.
I think what’s also interesting is that everyone has their down definition of what love is, what it feels like to give and to receive as well. Its not something that people can mutually agree upon, but it comes down to a persons perception of love.
